SEVEN REASONS WHY YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD NOT ATTEND SAME SEX SCHOOLS (SSS)

It is the dream of every parent to see their children excel in their daily endeavours and career at large. Parents always want the best for their children and are very proud of their children that are on the right track in life, little wonder you will you see parents introduce their children to their friends in this manner “This is my first son his name is Donald, he studied medicine in the prestigious University of Nigeria Nsukka (UNN). He is now a certified and competent Doctor. ” others introduce this way “This is my daughter Cynthia, she is a first class graduate of Accountancy, throughout her education she attended same sex schools and at the tertiary level she attended Convenant University I am so proud of her because during her schooling I made sure she kept herself intact as a woman. ”. 

Parents always want little or no distraction for their children while at school, so they see these same sex schools as a perfect “haven” for their children to attend to stay clear of the vagaries, corruption and social vices embodied in the society.

However these are seven reasons why the choice of same sex school would prove to be detrimental in the long run for your children:

1. It denies parents lack of complete control of their children

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Most of these same sex schools are boarding schools, so parents don’t get to see their children till its visiting week or most commonly at the end of the term.

At a same sex boarding school these children pick up habits easily from fellow students they feel are superior to them in one way or the other. Judging from the current day situation where emphasis in schools has shifted from how intelligent a students is to how fashionable, sleek, good looking, rich and sociable a person is, it can be easily seen that the habits students pick from each other most of the time are negative ones and in the absence of the parent figure to control and curb that on the daily, these habits slowly contribute to their attitudes and you see such children engaging in smoking, drinking, cultism.

2. It doesn’t capture the full picture of the society

Students who attended same sex schools for the majority of their schooling struggle when finally exposed to the society at large. Thus they tend to be reserved and clueless when the opposite sex is within range. They seems lost when the opposite sex behaves in certain ways because most of the females have been taught in same sex schools to avoid contact with males once they are outside the school vicinity, that such things may lead them into unwanted pregnancy hence bringing disgrace to their families.

So, when these girls encounter the society, they are always miles behind other children who attended conventional schools and learnt first hand on a daily basis how to interact, cooperate and get tasks done together with the opposite sex.

3. Lack of sexuality? Then we will create one within

Most same sex students at senior secondary level are well aware of the opposite sex and what they bring to the table in terms of sexuality all thanks to Mr Technology and his many concubines of social media like facebook, twitter, whatsapp, BBM, instagram and of course the web browser etc.

Although some students still remain naïve at senior secondary school level, the few spoilt ones introduce them to vices like pornography via videos, magazines and personal stories they encountered while at home. 

When their level of exposure to pornography becomes extreme, they get innovative and try out the practises on themselves.

4. They make the greatest mistakes

When these students advance in their schooling, they eventually find out that their parents basically put them in same sex schools to intentionally deny them exposure with the opposite sex.

So when they now attend conventional tertiary institution, they feel as if a chain has practically been broken in their lives, they are now strange to this new found freedom so they try to maximise the opportunity of the few months they have at school before returning home at semester closure.

Hence they act recklessly, they try to mix up and feel among with the crowd. They party to the extreme, gamble and do lots of silly things in the name of catching fun. The girls might get pregnant, some carryout abortion and some die in the abortion process. The boys become radicals and arrogant and they might take to vices like stealing, raping and cultism.

5. Social imbalance

This applies mostly to males, on the average male graduates from same sex schools finds it very difficult to approach a female and start up a conversation, be it in a church or any other social gathering. They even find it difficult to respond and keep conversation floating when approached by females.

It gets even worse when some of them find it difficult to express their selves in public or even make new friends males and females alike. They always avoid face to face contact when interacting with people.

6. They don’t make good life partners

Men that are end results of same sex schools are usually traditional and orthodox in their behaviours. They generally believe that there is an assigned place for their wives which is to prepare them food and produce babies, and to them they feel making money available to the wife should be enough for her worries. They never consider being romantic to their wives, listening more to her and spending quality time with her.

In contrast, they spend time with friends they have bonded very well with because they see this as a comfort zone.

7 They don’t make good fathers

Due to their traditional nature, men that graduated from same sex schools don’t usually accept the change that occurs in the society easily. So when their children start exhibiting tendencies like talking about the opposite sex, or other sensitive topics these men usually make the wrong decision by shutting the topic off instead of reasoning and enlightening the child so they don’t get the wrong information elsewhere.

Consequently the children tend to be more secretive and privy about events on going in their lives and this increases the chances of such children making numerous mistakes in lives and they learn life lessons the hard way.

So, parents send their children o same sex schools to get the best out of them and prevent them from mixing up and getting corrupt at an early age. However some of these kids pick up one or more of these vices which makes their modus operandi questionable.